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under the closed eyes of the inspectors the traits featuring the chiaroscuro coalesce, their contrarieties eliminated

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Eyelashes have evolved as a protective feature for the eyes, offering defense against external dangers such as contamination, excessive evaporation, and shear stress from airflow. They may also serve as indicators of an individual’s health, since various diseases, both congenital and non-congenital, can influence eyelash length. […]

this research primarily focused on the attractiveness of eyelash length […] investigating perceptions of health and sexual receptivity as functions of eyelash length, hypothesizing that while long eyelashes may be rated as less attractive, they could be perceived as signals of sexual receptivity. […]

results showed that eyelash length is positively associated with perceived sexual receptivity, suggesting that longer eyelashes might signal openness to casual relationships, despite lower attractiveness and health ratings at lengths beyond the optimal one-third ratio

{ Archives of Sexual Behavior | Continue reading }

‘Pour me consoler ce n’est pas une, ce sont d’innombrables Albertine que j’aurais dû oublier. Quand j’étais arrivé à supporter le chagrin d’avoir perdu celle-ci, c’était à recommencer avec une autre, avec cent autres.’ –Proust

What happens to attachment bonds when relationships end? […] for the average person, attachment bonds are gradually (4.18 years as a mid-point) relinquished after relationship termination: People’s former partners simply become someone they used to know. […]

even if the typical person does eventually “get over” their former partner, for some people, remnants of those bonds continue and never fully fade away.

{ Social Psychological and Personality Science | Continue reading }

Why has the preying lion still to become a child?

Previous research has found that mothers are more likely to ascribe paternal resemblance to newborns. Moreover, studies have found that fathers who perceive that their children resemble them invest more in those children. In this study, we aimed to examine if maternal claims of paternal resemblance exist even with very limited visual information by asking parents whom they believed the fetus looked like during an ultrasound. We found that mothers, but not fathers, were more likely to say that the fetus resembled the father.

{ Evolution and Human Behavior | Continue reading }

You have witchcraft in your lips

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four appears to be the magic number when it comes to conversation […]

“You very rarely get more than four people in a conversation. In the normal run of things, when a fifth person joins a group, it’ll become two conversations within about 20 seconds” […]

groups that work in challenging situations — such as SAS patrols and surgical teams — tend to do best when there are four members. […]

“[Shakespeare] instinctively understood the mentalising capacities of his audience. He was anxious to ensure his audience wasn’t cognitively overloaded by the number of minds in the action on stage. [It is] a masterclass in the study of human psychology.”

{ The Times | Continue reading }

photo { William Klein, Mten hidden their faces / 69 Sauna & Massage , 1980 }

‘The empty vassel makes the greatest sound.’ —Shakespeare

Othello syndrome is a psychosis with delusions of infidelity, where the patient harbors a persistent, unfounded belief – a “delusion” – that their partner is being unfaithful. We report a rare case of a 50-year-old woman, with no previous psychiatric history, who developed a delusion of infidelity, leading to verbal and physical aggressions with bladed weapons, days after experiencing a bi-thalamic infarct due to the occlusion of the Percheron artery. […]

H.S. is a 50-year-old right-handed woman who had been in a joyful, jealousy-free marriage for three decades and was completely independent in all areas of daily living activities. Seventeen days from the onset of her symptoms and two days post-discharge, she exhibited symptoms of delusional jealousy, accusing her younger sister of having an affair with her husband and wanting to kick her out of the house, even though her sister had just come to visit her upon her hospital discharge.

She started repeating to everyone coming to visit her that the cause of her illness was her husband’s infidelity. She kept accusing her sister for a week and then shifted her accusations to her friend’s daughter. She became suspicious and hyper-vigilant, seizing every chance to check her husband’s phone, spying on him, and frequently waking him up at night to confront him, with accusations like “Why are you here sharing my bed when you’re cheating on me?”

A year later, she verbally and physically assaulted her husband, using a bladed weapon on two separate occasions. Despite denial of these attacks, she persisted in her accusations of betrayal.

{ Neurocase | Continue reading }

A 68-year-old, right-handed, married male was admitted to the psychiatric facility for evaluation of agressive behavior toward his wife, whom he believed was having an affair with their 25-year-old neighbor.

The patient developed the belief of his wife’s infidelity shortly after a right cerebrovascular infarction 1 year earlier. He became impotent after the infarction, and a urologic consult discovered no other identifiable medical etiology. The patient became suspicious of the alleged affair when he began “putting together” evidence from various sources. For example, he noticed that his wife began leaving the first floor bedroom window open at night, presumably to allow her “lover” to enter the room while the patient was asleep. He found tracks in the snow beneath the window, and he noticed that the dust was disturbed on the window sill, which he took as evidence that the neighbor had entered through the window.

On another occasion, the patient discovered that his neighbor had generously offered to perform routine chores around the couple’s home, including fertilizing their lawn. The patient’s physical disabilities prevented him fromperforming such chores, and he interpreted this gesture as a threat to his marriage.

In response to the patient’s accusations, his wife began severely restricting her activities. She became fearful of getting up at night to go to the bathroom because the patient often awoke to reassert his belief that she was getting up to meet with her lover.

Furthermore, despite his impotence, he became sexually aggressive with his wife, repeatedly approaching her whenever she came to bed and demanding verbally and physically that she engage in intercourse with him. His advances would keep his wife awake all night, so that she eventually moved to a second bedroom, a decision that was interpreted by the patient as further proof that his wife was having an affair. Psychiatric hospitalization was finally precipitated by the patient’s increased threats to assault his wife if she did not discontinue her alleged affair. At one point, the patient became angered at her denials of infidelity, and he tried to strike her with his cane, finally throwing it at her. […]

The fact that the neighbor was a newlywed did not seem to sway the patient’s belief in the affair, as he merely contended that the neighbor’s new bride was also having an affair with another neighbor. […]

Misrepresentation or misinterpretation of events is common in brain disease […] Numerous cases of these monosymptomatic or content-specific delusions have been reported in association with identifiable insults or degenerative processes, Such delusions as reduplicative paramnesia (the belief that familiar surroundings have been duplicated), Capgras syndrome (the belief that one’s family members have been replaced by imposters), and de Clérambault’s syndrome (the belief that one is involved in an amorous relationship with a famous person) have been recognized with increasing frequency in association with insults to right hemisphere and bilateral frontal systems.

Traditionally, the Othello syndrome, and obsessive jealousy in general, has been treated purely as a symptom of a primary psychiatric disorder. In fact, delusional jealousy is not uncommonly found in association with chronic alcohol abuse, schizophrenia, primary delusional (paranoid) disorder, or as a secondary symptom in affective disorder. […]

one can argue that the patient’s inability to “fertilize his lawn” was a metaphor for his sexual dysfunction [“Our bodies are our gardens, to the which our wills are gardeners.” (Othello, I, 3)][…]

Delusional jealousy is rarely reported as a mono-symptomatic phenomenon of underlying neurologic disease. This is the first reported case of the Othello syndrome that clearly developed in association with a structural lesion and in the absence of general paranoia.

{ Othello Syndrome Secondary to Right Cerebrovascular Infarction (1991) | PDF }

I’m gonna win that Golden Arrow, and then I’m goin’ to present meself to Maid Marian.

The frequently repeated view that men are attracted to women with low waist–hip ratios (WHRs) and low body mass indices (BMI) (in well-nourished populations) because these traits indicate health and fertility does not appear to be well supported. Indeed, a low WHR and BMI are most likely to occur in young women in their late teens who have never been pregnant (nulligravidas), women who have demonstrably lower fertility and greater liability to infection than women in their 20s. […]

A nubile woman is a nulligravida who has recently completed physical growth, puberty, and sexual development. This is usually accomplished 3–4 years after menarche in the mid to late teens when female reproductive value is maximal. As noted, women in the nubile age group have the lowest WHRs and, in well-nourished populations, have lower BMIs than women in their 20s, traits strongly associated with attractiveness. […]

Using data for 1.7 million first births from 1990 U.S. natality and mortality records, we compared outcomes for women with first births (primiparas) aged 16–20 years (when first births typically occur in forager and subsistence groups) with those aged 21–25 years. The younger primiparas had a much lower risk of potentially life-threatening complications of labor and delivery and, when evolutionarily novel risk factors were controlled, fetuses which were significantly more likely to survive despite lower birth weights.

{ Evolutionary Psychology | Continue reading }

‘What a loss to spend that much time with someone, only to find out that they are now a stranger.’ —Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)

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The present studies investigated the relationships between men’s perceived risk of experiencing sperm competition (i.e., when the ejaculates of two or more men simultaneously occupy the reproductive tract of a single woman), and their use of strategies to detect, prevent, and correct their partner’s sexual infidelity.

We investigated these associations using self-reports provided by men (Study 1, n = 113), partner-reports provided by women (Study 2, n = 136), and dyadic reports (Study 3, n = 103 couples).

The results of these studies indicated that the attractiveness of women was consistently associated with men’s use of benefit-provisioning mate retention behaviors (e.g., buying expensive gifts for one’s partner, showing signs of physical affection) and semen-displacing behaviors (e.g., deeper copulatory thrusting, more thrusts during copulation), whereas the infidelity risk of women was often associated with men’s use of cost-inflicting mate retention behaviors (e.g., threatening to end the relationship, monopolization of partner’s free time).

{ Evolutionary Psychology | Continue reading }

Previous work provides evidence of adaptations to sperm competition in men. For example, men’s testes size relative to body weight is larger than for the monandrous gorilla, which experiences very low sperm competition risk. However, men’s relative testes size is smaller than that of chimpanzees, whose polygynandrous mating system generates substantial sperm competition. […]

Several studies provide evidence that men unconsciously increase sperm number in an ejaculate when they are at greater sperm competition risk. Specifically, men who spent a greater proportion of time apart from their partners since the couple’s last copulation (time during which a man cannot account for his partner’s sexual behavior) produce more sperm in their next in-pair copulatory ejaculate. […]

Researchers have also theorized that the morphology of the human penis suggests an evolved function as a semen displacement device. […]

Both sexes reported that men thrust more deeply and more quickly at the couple’s next copulation when they experienced contexts in which sperm competition is more likely to occur. […] Goetz and colleagues also found that as sperm competition risk increased, men performed more copulatory behaviors that might act to displace the sperm of a potential rival that may be present (such as more thrusts and deeper thrusts during copulation). […]

Symons (1979) argued that women’s orgasm and associated physiological structures such as the clitoris are byproducts of selection on male genitalia and orgasm. […] Research also indicates that orgasm increases the retention of sperm. […] ancestral men who were particularly interested in the occurrence of their partner’s copulatory orgasm may have been more successful in the context of sperm competition.

{ Personality and Individual Differences (2010) | Continue reading }

The infidelity-detection hypothesis for oral sex proposes that men perform oral sex to gather information about their partner’s recent sexual history. […] men at a greater recurrent risk of sperm competition expressed greater interest in, and spent more time performing, oral sex on their partner

{ Personality and Individual Differences (2012) | Continue reading | More: Is Cunnilingus-Assisted Orgasm a Male Sperm-Retention Strategy? }

‘A happy memory is perhaps on this earth truer than happiness itself.’ –Alfred de Musset

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Adult individuals frequently face difficulties in attracting and keeping mates, which is an important driver of singlehood.

In the current research, we investigated the mating performance (i.e., how well people do in attracting and retaining intimate partners) and singlehood status in 14 different countries, namely Austria, Brazil, China, Greece, Hungary, Italy, Japan, Peru, Poland, Russia, Spain, Turkey, the UK, and Ukraine (N = 7,181).

We found that poor mating performance was in high occurrence, with about one in four participants scoring low in this dimension, and more than 57% facing difficulties in starting and/or keeping a relationship.

Men and women did not differ in their mating performance scores, but there was a small yet significant effect of age, with older participants indicating higher mating performance.

{ Evolutionary Psychology | Continue reading }

design { Ken Kelleher }

We made it so far together but then I lost you in the trees

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Romantic love is a basic brain system, like fear and anger or disgust. We humans have evolved three distinct brain systems for mating and reproduction: the sex drive, romantic love, and feelings of deep attachment. People make the mistake of thinking that these are phases. They’re not phases, they’re brain systems, and they can operate in any combination and order. […]

I estimate the people I studied, on average, thought about their beloved about 85 percent of the time. […]

I looked at the demographics from the United Nations from 1947–2011 and across 80 cultures. People tend to divorce around the fourth year of marriage. […]

{ Helen Fisher / Sapiens | Continue reading }

still { Catherine Deneuve in Jacques Demy’s Les Parapluies de Cherbourg, 1963 }

‘Wit lies in recognizing the resemblance among things which differ and the difference between things which are alike.’ –Madame de Staël

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The widely disseminated convergence in physical appearance hypothesis posits that long-term partners’ facial appearance converges with time due to their shared environment, emotional mimicry, and synchronized activities. Although plausible, this hypothesis is incompatible with empirical findings pertaining to a wide range of other traits—such as personality, intelligence, attitudes, values, and well-being—in which partners show initial similarity but do not converge over time.

We solve this conundrum by reexamining this hypothesis using the facial images of 517 couples taken at the beginning of their marriages and 20 to 69 years later. Using two independent methods of estimating their facial similarity (human judgment and a facial recognition algorithm), we show that while spouses’ faces tend to be similar at the beginning of marriage, they do not converge over time, bringing facial appearance in line with other personal characteristics.

{ Nature | Continue reading }

‘To succeed in the world we do everything we can to appear successful already.’ –La Rochefoucauld

Self-promotion is common in everyday life. Yet, across 8 studies (N = 1,687) examining a broad range of personal and professional successes, we find that individuals often hide their successes from others and that such hiding has relational costs. […]

Whereas previous research highlights the negative consequences of sharing one’s accomplishments with others, we find that sharing is superior to hiding for maintaining one’s relationships.

{ Journal of Personality and Social Psychology | Continue reading }

‘Grow up, Raj. There’s no place for truth on the Internet.’ –The Big Bang Theory, s02e021

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{ The Dating Market: Thesis Overview | PDF }

Why is he smiling in this moment — during a question and answer regarding such a serious subject? A smile, when it’s out of context, is always telling.

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According to a paper published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, you can come off as more persuasive by speaking slightly louder than you normally do, and by varying the overall volume of your voice (i.e., speaking both more loudly and softly). […] it will make you appear more confident when you speak, which has a positive impact on your overall persuasiveness, according to the study.

{ NY Times | Continue reading }

If all else fails, retreat

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Participants (N = 140) were formed into opposite-sex dyads and interacted three times during their ‘date’ (first impression, verbal and nonverbal interaction).

Many of our findings were in line with previous research. Partner preferences seem to be in line with research; the Attractiveness Halo Effect occurred; participants were not accurate in guessing if they were liked by their partner; submissive behaviour reflected liking, sexual attraction and attraction to some degree, however results regarding affiliative behaviour contradicted previous research; only female sexual attraction is affected by submissive and affiliative behaviour; there is evidence that mimicry occurs; physiological synchrony affected females’ opinions, male date outcome and date outcome match.

These results suggest that most dating theories and concepts to a certain degree hold up in real-life contexts.

{ Psychologie | PDF }

And every dam had her seven crutches. And every crutch had its seven hues. And each hue had a differing cry.

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[S]ociologist Eva Illouz, in her 1997 book Consuming the Romantic Utopia, analyzes the trope of “the deserted beach”:

While the beach is primarily a construct of the tourist industry, in advertising it is detached from the crowded and highly commercialized vacation resorts. In fact, in advertisements beaches are invariably deserted.

Without the advertising clichés and conventions to frame our expectations, love itself would be incomprehensible. Illouz quotes an epigram of La Rochefoucauld’s: “There are some people who would never have fallen in love if they had not heard there was such a thing.” Presumably the problem with this is that such love that mimics the conventions is somehow inauthentic, or that we force what might have been an idiosyncratic and true love into false shapes that spoil it. Illouz suggests that modern romantic experience has a lot in common with tourist experiences: They are systematized in advance so that they may be readily desired, accessed, understood, consumed, disavowed.

{ Rob Horning/Real Life | Continue reading }

mirror and mdf { Monica Bonvicini, Same Old Shit, 2018 }

Ah, but she was the queer old skeowsha anyhow, Anna Livia, trinkettoes!

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Women and men perceived breasts in a similar way to each other: the bigger the breasts the higher the reproductive efficiency, lactational efficiency, sexual desire, and promiscuity attributed to the woman. Nevertheless, large breasts were not regarded more attractive than average ones, though small breasts were the least attractive. In addition, big-breasted women were perceived as less faithful and less intelligent than women with average or small breasts.

{ Archives of Sexual Behavior | Continue reading }

photo { Horace Roye, Nude #40, c. 1940 }

‘abolish all prisons especially my body.’ –@nomunnynohunny

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…DARPA’s Red Balloon Challenge in 2008, in which the United States government scattered 10 red weather balloons across the continental U.S., and instructed teams of researchers to locate them as fast as possible. The winning MIT team found all 10 balloons in just under nine hours using the virality of social media and an incentive structure that motivated people to recruit their friends. This result was a resounding success for crowdsourcing and the Internet at large, demonstrating that a collective of individuals, connected through technology, could together solve large-scale problems that no individual could solve alone.

This same team, however, struggled with other Internet-based forms for mass cooperation. During the 2011 DARPA Shredder Challenge, which involved recruiting and coordinating individuals on the Internet to collectively recombine shredded documents, people took advantage of the trust necessary for large-scale collaboration. Adversarial participants from the other teams, who felt the crowdsourcing essentially amounted to “cheating,” posed as volunteers and sabotaged the crowdsourcing effort, rendering cooperation impossible. Fast-forward five years, to the 2016 presidential election, and we see how this antagonism can be a serious problem for genuine collective action. Bad actors proliferated misinformation at such a rate that the New York Times declared, “The Internet trolls have won. Sorry, there’s not much you can do.”

So when do networks enable cooperation to thrive? And when do they hinder it? […] We decided to examine a different, extreme environment known for its ability to foster cooperation at a large scale: Burning Man.

{ Nautilus | Continue reading }

art { Diego Gravinese }

‘a girl whose boyfriend i fucked just posted a picture of herself with a girl who fucked MY ex boyfriend. what can it possibly mean’ –@nomunnynohunny

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{ A Guide to Heartbreak }

‘Democracy is a device that ensures we shall be governed no better than we deserve.’ –George Bernard Shaw

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Faces in general and attractive faces, in particular, are frequently used in marketing, advertising, and packaging design. However, few studies have examined the effects of attractive faces on people’s choice behavior.

The present research examines whether attractive (vs. unattractive) faces increase individuals’ inclination to choose either healthy or unhealthy foods. […]

exposure to attractive (vs. unattractive) opposite‐sex faces increased choice likelihood of unhealthy foods.

{ Psychology & Marketing | Continue reading }

offset lithograph / vinyl cover { Damien Hirst, Kate Moss — Use Money Cheat Death, 2009 | The record is a one-sided, white vinyl disc with a mainly monotonous beeping interrupted by what is purported to be Kate Moss’ voice in telephone call mode for about 30 seconds, then more beeping and finally Damien Hirst himself telling us that it’s okay for artists to earn money. }

‘Nothing brings you peace but the triumph of principles.’ –Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Suppose you live in a deeply divided society: 60% of people strongly identify with Group A, and the other 40% strongly identify with Group B. While you plainly belong to Group A, you’re convinced this division is bad: It would be much better if everyone felt like they belonged to Group AB. You seek a cohesive society, where everyone feels like they’re on the same team.

What’s the best way to bring this cohesion about? Your all-too-human impulse is to loudly preach the value of cohesion. But on reflection, this is probably counter-productive. When members of Group B hear you, they’re going to take “cohesion” as a euphemism for “abandon your identity, and submit to the dominance of Group A. ”None too enticing. And when members of Group A notice Group B’s recalcitrance, they’re probably going to think, “We offer Group B the olive branch of cohesion, and they spit in our faces. Typical.” Instead of forging As and Bs into one people, preaching cohesion tears them further apart.

What’s the alternative? Simple. Instead of preaching cohesion, reach out to Group B. Unilaterally show them respect.Unilaterally show them friendliness. They’ll be distrustful at first, but cohesion can’t be built in a day. 

{ The Library of Economics and Liberty | Continue reading }

photo { Stephen Shore, Queens, New York, April 1972 }



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