Not every superhero has powers, you know. You can be super without them.
Paradoxically we initially like narcissists more because of their exploitative, entitled behaviour—but it doesn’t last long. (…)
There are all sorts of paradoxes in the way narcissists behave. Here are three that this research helps explain:
1. Why do people continue to behave selfishly when it only ruins their relationships with others?
2. Why do narcissists devalue others when they are so dependent on them for admiration?
3. Why don’t narcissists spot the cycle of early attraction followed by rejection?
The first two are partly explained by the fact that narcissistic behaviour is, at first, attractive to other people. Behaving selfishly seems to bring them a rush of admiration which they get addicted to, while devaluing others when the inevitable rejection comes, covering it up by searching out new people to worship them.
The reason narcissists fail to spot this cycle may well be that friends and partners never hang around long enough to tell them in such a way that they actually believe it and want to do something about it.
graphic design { Casper Sormani }
